 Finding Love
Relationship Magic for Women
What does a modern woman like you want from a man? She wants support, not competition. She wants encouragement. She wants to bask in the glow of his admiration. It’s the nature of who we are. A romantic relationship is not the Olympic of orgasms. It’s not mud wrestling for couples. It’s not a walk-on role in a two-bit movie. It’s the best part of life.
Finding Love
No woman has to have a husband or significant other to feel whole, complete and alive.
But you personally feel the need for a true, lasting relationship. Don’t give up on love. The relationship for you could be just around the corner. Most animals find a mate by instinct. But not us humans. We want it all, looks, money, romance, and help with the housework. The instincts that could find us a mate are smothered by too much analysis, too many bad dates, too many breakups and too many expectations.
Did your latest beau stop calling because his wife found out about you? Are your cats providing your only emotional outlet for all the affection you’ve got stored up?
Here’s what you need to do to move into the best relationship of your life. First, get clear in your mind about what you want from a man. Next, get acquainted with your best self, which is to say, define yourself as a woman worth knowing. Then, locate the person you want. Draw him to you. Inspire him. Work your magic. Marry him and live happily ever after.
Get Acquainted With YourselfYou are special, and you’ve been keeping your light under a basket. Know yourself as the valuable person you are, with all you have to offer. Stop with the put-downs. Cease the self-criticism. Sell yourself on you. Start talking the good talk and walking the good walk. You must do more to find love besides reading your horoscope every day and crossing your fingers.
The Guy You Don’t Want
Don’t choose a guy just because he’s in your line of sight. Don’t settle for the souse, the letch, the druggie, the player, the skunk. If he’s got problems like that, he’s not going to give you anything except heartbreak in return for your affection. Those guys only know how to take, take, and take again. You can’t cure him, no matter how hard you try.
The Guy You Really Want
Maybe you’re looking for that father-of-my-children guy. Maybe you’re looking for that 50-year-wedding-anniversary guy. Maybe you’re looking for the love of your life. What kind of man does it take to fill those dreams?
My friend Lily has a shopping list of things she wants in a guy. Height, age, job, his car, the label on his clothes, even the color of his eyes are written in stone on her list. She won’t consider anyone who doesn’t measure up. It doesn’t matter to her that these superficial qualities have nothing to do with a happy relationship. You’d think she was casting a movie. And in a sense she is.
Your Relationship Shopping List
You want a man with a heart of gold. You’re looking for a man you can’t bear to live without. Someone who makes you feel like a princess. Someone who will cross the ocean to help you out of trouble. Your best choice is a man who has character along with the kind of values you can build a life on. He’s going to be caring, trustworthy, dependable and affectionate. He’s going to be your partner, your helpmate, your one and only Prince Charming. When you run into a guy who fits this description, don’t let him get away.
What traits in a man make good relationship material for you?- Do you want a guy who takes over the room when he arrives? Someone who’s always “on stage?” Are you happy being in a supporting role laughing at his jokes, or do you want the spotlight for yourself?
- Would you be content with a guy who’s always booked and has a wide circle of friends, who has no empty space in his day planner? Or would you rather sit home together with him most nights.
- Would you feel better with someone who pinches pennies and saves for a rainy day? Or someone who enjoys life too much to be restricted by a budget?
- Should he be tough and fearless, street smart and world wise? Or should he be literary, living in the world of ideas while you can deal with the real world.
- Should he be calm and laid back, non-judgmental and accepting? Or would you prefer him to have high expectations for the both of you?
- How sexy should he be, and how sensual? Is good sex your numero uno priority, or do you keep it on the backburner most of the time?
- Does he have to like your favorite music? Share your interests and hobbies?
- Would your life be better with someone responsible and organized? Or would you feel fenced in?
- Would you prefer someone impetuous and entertaining? The opposite side of the coin is someone predictable and hardworking.
- Where do you want to live?
- Do you want someone who is spiritual?
- Can you accept someone with children?
- Someone who is attentive and caring?
- Someone who will be a devoted father to your children?
Now you’re getting the ideas for a relationship shopping list that’s going to fill your deepest needs. Don’t waste time chasing the wrong trolley. Mr. Right is heading down the track and right into your life.
My wish is that your life brings you much success. I hope you have a very happy day.
-----Surfer Sam
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